WARS AND NATIONS HAVE WON AND LOST, DUE TO ROMANCE, AFFAIRS AND BETRAYAL. CLEOPATRA TO SHAH JAHAN, EVERYTHING REVOLVED AROUND LOVE. THE TAJ MAHAL, IS A STANDING EXAMPLE, OF IT. PRIMITIVE MAN TO THE SUPREMELY TALENTED AND EDUCATED MEN OF TODAY, ITS ALWAYS ABOUT WOMEN. KILLING FOR WOMEN, TO MAINTAINING A HAREM, MEN HAVE NEVER KNOWN CONTENTMENT.
Man basically, works for his own survival and survival of his kin. What started as a territorial, supremacy, has turned very ugly, in terms of crimes for sex and cheating. polygamy existed in almost all traditions of the world, still does in major part of africa and islam. Monogamy became the order of the day, as man rose in status, power, position and education. So he wanted his best child to take over his place without too many contenders, on the primitive level, which changed to a new thinking pattern of having his own, unique character and personality.
It directly related to his social life status and image. So success was determined by monogamy. His respect in society circles grew. He was looked up to by his juniors and contemporaries. Men began to bother, about image and social standing as opposed to a harem mentality. They wanted power and image in equal measure.
The joint family system of the eastern society, didn’t much allow affairs. children were answerable to parents and family members. When money was scarce , and meeting ends was a huge problem. Those that had the money, had one-off affairs and was often hidden. The other woman was a concubine or a mistress.
As the eastern world, rose in power and education, and became leaders in IT, the development of social media, brought with itself, a unique, method of breaking marriages, relationships, and families. Entry of smart phones, made it easier for cheats to have affairs.What was a male dominated space is now slowly seeing the entry of women. Married women, who are cheating on their husbands, having extra-marital affairs, ruin not only themselves, but the innocent kids of the married man, they have an affair with, and his devoted wife, who went on sacrificing her life, for his savings, career, assets and family.
The new age ADULTRESS, will in the long run, ruin the etos and values of the society. She will erode the prime foundation, on the society is built, because, if a man strays, he only goes, if a woman strays, she takes the whole society to the gutters, as it is the woman who builds the home, society or country. She is the mother of everything. Character and values come from her. She allows herself to be used, what example can she set for her kids? what is the difference between a woman who has extra-marital relationships and a terrorist? both bring down the hope,trust and respect of everyone.
The man who has cheated on his wife, without a trace of guilt, continues the marriage or gets out, but what future does he have also? will money give him happiness? is that what he wants? what repairs can he do? why did he stray in the first place?
1.childhood memories and experiences.
2. lack of mother’s love and affection.
3. rejection by family as part of them.
4. inferiority complex.
5.ADD OR HYPERACTIVE DISORDER
6. fantasy thinking and dream state.
7.LYING AS A BASIC NATURE.
8. HYPER SEX DRIVE
9. high levels of Testosterone .
10. SINGULAR, BHACHELOR THINKING.
It would take years of counseling, and therapy because there is layers and layers of it. His acceptance of the issue, the awareness of his weakness and problem, his family support, trusting his wife and kids, wanting to give up and change, forms the most important step towards it.
Wwhatever it is, it can’t be done without his volunteering. He has to guage whats at stake? if he thinks, i can take away all the money, and chuck them, he will be very soon, alone, with none. What a man in this situation fails to realize, is all thse friends who, hovered around him, now have their own family and have no time to fun and frolic with him. Also he must understand, men marry and stop thinking single. So this cheater is on an eternal hunt for the single male.
WHO IS CAPABLE OF THIS?
THE ALPHA MALE, SUPER MALE, as they think about themselves, who hit the gym, often, who look their best, want to pour on their appearances, and spend hours grooming, and have loads of energy, are capable. Also they think they are not answerable to anyone.
ME, MINE, I—- ATTITUDE
CONSTANTLY CRITICAL OF OTHERS.
BLAMING OTHERS FOR LAPSES.
WRONG LIST OF MEMORIES.
HATE COMMITMENT AND RESPONSIBILITY
HIGH AND MIGHTY, FEEL.
THEY NEED TREATMENT AND HELP. But who can help those who cant help themselves. They will refuse to end their marriage, because they get pleasure causing mental and emotional pain to their spouse. they need the marriage to shift the blame and make their spouse their scape goat.