My best friends are men, and still I am compelled to write this blog. Men and women can’t be friends, is something i never understand or accept. Friendship is a bond between two living souls–period. My dog which is no more, also a male, would sit next to me, we never had the need to communicate, he sort of knew, when I was sad, happy, or in a mood to play with him.
I have a deaf and dumb friend, a batik artist, one of the best in the world, a far superior human being than, talking men. Just because my experience with men has been ok, doesn’t mean all men are OK. All men are not ok!! thats also not true. Rapists exists in all societies and all cultures. I doubt if any country across the world has a rape free society. Much populated societies, have more incidents.
WHY INDIAN MEN ARE SEX ADDICTED?
Families in india, give such high importance to education, and career, and parents often, decide evrything from the footwear to the dress to spouses for their children. Children are never given the opportunity to choose, or give their opinions. until marriage, healthy communication with the opposite sex is discouraged and arranged marriages, take place in such a manner, that, two strangers meet, marriage is fixed then they are thrown together to live, have sex, and create a family under them. Its the hypocrisy of the society itself. children are confused by this, attitude of parents. Same thing if they chose, they will be sent to the gallows. Honour killings are still in vogue. children are thrown away from families, if they choose their life partner. Much is at stake, in terms of family honor, society prestige, property issues… the list goes on.
WHY SPECIALLY IN INDIA
India has stood against sexual abuse, sex addictions and crimes, but the other side of the coin shows the opposite learning of the masses. The caste system, which discriminates, color, religion, status, region, prevents a healthy relationship society. Men and women, girls and boys can’t be friends as in FRIENDS. When one’s own family opposes it, the children who need to find their journey and its colors, end up doing exactly the same things, opposed by parents.
Sex is advocated as dirty, since young. Are we all born of dirt? When a good view of ourselves is not made, its shrouded in mystery and done in such a manner.Parents and teachers, repeatedly instill in kids, as brothers and sisters. So on the surface, one is supposed to believe every one of the opposite sex is a sibling. So the outcome to let out ones emotions, is bizarre and dangerous–RAPE.
WHO IS RESPONSIBLE FOR THIS?
IS IT BECAUSE OF THE WAY A WOMAN DRESSES ?
THEN, NO MAN SHOULD BE LOOKING AT A SAREE CLAD WOMEN. IS THAT HAPPENING IN A
IS IT THE MOVIES, MEDIA AND THE MAGAZINES?
TO A CERTAIN EXTENT I WOULD SAY, YES, because, women are worshipped on the one hand, and treated as mere objects of beauty on the other. Everything from tooth paste to homes, needs a sexual looking woman to promote their products. The sense appeal and sense gratification are so important.
Madhya Pradesh once India’s largest state, had in its history, the story of RANI OF JHANSI, the the warrior queen, and in the same land was phoolan devi, the dacoit queen also a VICTIM OF RAPE. Who ruled and ruined men. Went on to become a politician, but in many ways, she makes us now believe, revenge is fitting to these HUMAN ANIMALS.
PSYCHE OF A RAPIST
Yes a rapist will most certainly think differently than a normal person. What makes him do the heinous crime, is anybody’s guess, but certain, things that happen in his childhood, makes him so.
1. FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS.
2. PARTIAL PARENTS
3.REJECTION BY OWN FAMILY, SIBLINGS, ILLTREATMENT, EMOTIONAL ABUSE BY MOTHER.
4. LACK OF GOOD QUALITY EDUCATION.
5. NOT ABLE TO EXPRESS OPINIONS FREELY IN A FAMILY SET-UP
6. WRONG FRIENDSHIPS.
7. HABITS AND ADDICTIONS.
8. LACK OF INTEREST TO ACHIEVE AND SUCEED IN LIFE.
9. NOT GETTING ENOUGH LOVE AND AFFECTION FROM PEOPLE THEY ARE CLOSE TO.
10. NO POSITIVE OUTLET.
11. MALE DOMINANCE AND ABUSE BY FATHER.
12. ALCHOHOLIC FATHER.
Anything can trigger. Not one reason, can be cited, but wrong associates, can influence wrongly and lead them on a wrong path. Movies in India depict women as pleasure objects. Actually its almost a decade or more since rape scenes have been stopped in movies. Yet such cases exist.
IS IT THE DRESSING OF WOMEN WHICH IS THE CAUSE?
Its both an YES and NO. Even a saree clad woman is ogled at. There is no single reason, and why we search for reasons, and try to give excuses for a maniac. As the country advances into the new age and call itself the new super power, a knowledge driven economy, it has on its hands, a great responsibility to show the world, That INDIA IS SAFE.
In more recent times, addiction to porn, social media has been on the rise. There has not been enough healthy outlets for men to express their feelings, anger, and emotions.They actually need counseling and treatment.
Law has to bring life imprisonment as punishment for such a crime. A male dominated society has for very long viewed women as door mats. Man having an extra marital relationships to affairs, is almost a polished version of this same thing. Its a mental problem. Which needs treatment.
The country and its citizens are so confused by the double faced philosophy, where woman is a GODESS and woman is a slave. Since the beginning of time, every women is conditioned to worship her father and husband, no matter what?
Rapes by fathers, brothers, and own relatives are on and go unnoticed. strict laws and public punishment will teach the society to behave itself. AND LET WOMEN BE…